If There Were No One Else in the World

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By Katie Corbett

 

I am a recovering people-pleaser. I am always looking for ways to figure out what I want, find out what is important to me, and accomplish those things.

 

I have pondered a question that has helped me do this effectively: “If there were no one else in the world, what would you do?” It is a very insightful question, and I have been surprised by the answers I have gotten.

At times, when I ask myself this question, the answer is something relaxing, like read a book, or take a nap. Other times it is something productive, like work on a specific project, or do chores.

 

At first, I was afraid that when I asked myself this question, I would only do activities that would give me the most pleasure. Asking myself this question has helped me trust myself, and recognize what is good for me in that moment without worrying about the opinions or expectations of others.

Have you encountered a question that has changed your life? Let me know; I would love to see it in the comments.

 

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A Thought Experiment

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By Katie Corbett


Someone I know recently brought an interesting thought experiment to my attention. If you aren’t sure what you want to do, ask yourself: “If no one else existed in the world, what would I be doing right now?” I have tried this over the past week, because I have been feeling overwhelmed, and I’m also a recovering people-pleaser.

 

While there are times when it is necessary to do something you don’t want to do simply because it needs to get done, it can often be hard to relax if you can’t let go of what you think you “should” be doing. I found that this experiment helped me think about what I truly wanted to do in the moment, and enjoy some peace and serenity.

 

What questions help you combat stress and overwhelm? If you have found one that is helpful, let me know.

 

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All About Journaling

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By Katie Corbett

 

when I am struggling to work through challenging emotions or flush out broad ideas, I find it helpful to do some journaling. I turn to many places for prompts and questions to get the thoughts flowing.

 

Books exist that have questions and journal prompts. A quick Google search will turn up many of these.

 

I like to reflect on and write about questions people have asked me. One time, I wrote a poem comprised of questions people have asked me about being blind. It was interesting to compile my thoughts and to see this list written out on paper.

 

another area I explore for journaling purposes is my own mind. Many of us have questions that float around in the back of our minds and we don’t always take time to answer them. Thinking about these questions, and writing my answers and thoughts down, has helped me process these bigger questions.

 

What is your outlet for challenging emotions and thought-provoking questions? Do you journal? Do you do anything else that helps you get the thoughts out of your head? I would love to know, so feel free to leave a comment.

 

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The Power of The Perfect Question

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By Katie Corbett

 

Last night, I was chatting with one of my friends about a past situation in my life, and she asked the perfect question. I won’t share what it was because of the personal nature of the situation, but it got me thinking about how important questions are to our growth and development. I came up with this list of questions you can use to ponder what question you need to be asked most. (I know, a list of questions about questions; so meta!)

 

  • What is the question you most need to hear right now?
  • What one question has had the greatest impact on your life trajectory?
  • What question would, if answered, help you determine your next action steps toward a better future?
  • What question do you wish someone would ask you?
  • What question has come up repeatedly throughout your life?
  • What is the question you hope to answer by living your life?
  • What question could help you become the best version of yourself?
  • What questions do others ask you to help them answer?
  • How do you feel about questions? Love them? Hate them? Indifferent?
  • What is your best method for answering questions? On paper? By pressing record and verbally processing? By quietly reflecting and then bouncing ideas off of friends?

 

The question I was asked last night has the promise of leading me down a journey of self-discovery. I hope the questions in your life do the same for you, and that you have people who can ask you the hard ones.

 

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Remember in December, Part 5 of 5

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By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Travel
  • My differences
  • Food
  • Writing
  • Hobbies
  • Fun
  • Myself

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 4 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Work
  • Vacation
  • Goals
  • Exercise and fitness
  • Dieting and nutrition
  • Teamwork
  • Planning

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 3 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Learning
  • Habits
  • Dreams
  • Success
  • Marriage and romance
  • Networking
  • Time

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 2 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Family
  • Faith
  • Career
  • Business
  • Pets
  • Cooking
  • Creativity

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 1 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • House and home
  • Money and finances
  • Friends

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

 

The Perfect Conversation-Starter Question: In What Ways do you Spend Your Time?

Katie Corbett holds the book "How to Talk to Anyone"

By Katie Corbett

 

“What do you do?” This question is probably the most commonly asked question at networking events. Replacing it with a more inclusive question will help you seem more interesting, connect with people on a deeper level, and will lead to conversations that are less dull.

 

I recently read, “How to Talk to Anyone,” by Leil Lowndes. In this book, she suggests asking: “How do you spend your time?” Here are some reasons this question is better than the standard “What do you do?”:

 

  • It provides a variety of ways to answer.
  • If someone doesn’t have a job, they will feel grateful that they didn’t have to explain that unless they want to.
  • This question is interesting, because someone could answer it in regards to their hobbies, their work, or anything else they choose to highlight.
  • You will likely learn more about a person through the way they answer this question, because they will be able to talk about what interests them.
  • A conversation can head in an unexpected direction and will be less likely to stall out.

 

I have asked this question during networking calls and learned about someone’s bike repair business, another person’s stargazing hobby, and a third person’s volunteer and charitable work. It is a question that is sure to yield interesting answers. If I were to answer this question, I could either talk about my writing business, the latest fantasy novel I read, or a home improvement project my husband and I are working on together.

 

The next time you are talking to someone new, or even someone you have not spoken with in a long time, ask them how they spend their time. I hope their answers surprise and delight you.

 

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