The Power of The Perfect Question

Katie Corbett headshot

By Katie Corbett

 

Last night, I was chatting with one of my friends about a past situation in my life, and she asked the perfect question. I won’t share what it was because of the personal nature of the situation, but it got me thinking about how important questions are to our growth and development. I came up with this list of questions you can use to ponder what question you need to be asked most. (I know, a list of questions about questions; so meta!)

 

  • What is the question you most need to hear right now?
  • What one question has had the greatest impact on your life trajectory?
  • What question would, if answered, help you determine your next action steps toward a better future?
  • What question do you wish someone would ask you?
  • What question has come up repeatedly throughout your life?
  • What is the question you hope to answer by living your life?
  • What question could help you become the best version of yourself?
  • What questions do others ask you to help them answer?
  • How do you feel about questions? Love them? Hate them? Indifferent?
  • What is your best method for answering questions? On paper? By pressing record and verbally processing? By quietly reflecting and then bouncing ideas off of friends?

 

The question I was asked last night has the promise of leading me down a journey of self-discovery. I hope the questions in your life do the same for you, and that you have people who can ask you the hard ones.

 

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Remember in December, Part 5 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Travel
  • My differences
  • Food
  • Writing
  • Hobbies
  • Fun
  • Myself

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 4 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Work
  • Vacation
  • Goals
  • Exercise and fitness
  • Dieting and nutrition
  • Teamwork
  • Planning

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 3 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Learning
  • Habits
  • Dreams
  • Success
  • Marriage and romance
  • Networking
  • Time

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 2 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Family
  • Faith
  • Career
  • Business
  • Pets
  • Cooking
  • Creativity

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 1 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • House and home
  • Money and finances
  • Friends

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

 

The Perfect Conversation-Starter Question: In What Ways do you Spend Your Time?

Katie Corbett holds the book "How to Talk to Anyone"

By Katie Corbett

 

“What do you do?” This question is probably the most commonly asked question at networking events. Replacing it with a more inclusive question will help you seem more interesting, connect with people on a deeper level, and will lead to conversations that are less dull.

 

I recently read, “How to Talk to Anyone,” by Leil Lowndes. In this book, she suggests asking: “How do you spend your time?” Here are some reasons this question is better than the standard “What do you do?”:

 

  • It provides a variety of ways to answer.
  • If someone doesn’t have a job, they will feel grateful that they didn’t have to explain that unless they want to.
  • This question is interesting, because someone could answer it in regards to their hobbies, their work, or anything else they choose to highlight.
  • You will likely learn more about a person through the way they answer this question, because they will be able to talk about what interests them.
  • A conversation can head in an unexpected direction and will be less likely to stall out.

 

I have asked this question during networking calls and learned about someone’s bike repair business, another person’s stargazing hobby, and a third person’s volunteer and charitable work. It is a question that is sure to yield interesting answers. If I were to answer this question, I could either talk about my writing business, the latest fantasy novel I read, or a home improvement project my husband and I are working on together.

 

The next time you are talking to someone new, or even someone you have not spoken with in a long time, ask them how they spend their time. I hope their answers surprise and delight you.

 

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Remember in December, Part 5 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2020 calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2020, I’m switching things up! I’ve come up with a list of 31 questions, and used them to reflect on this previous year. I hope they enrich your reflections as well.

 

  • In which ways do you hope 2021 is different from 2020?
  • What is one thing you are looking forward to about 2021?
  • What is one new thing you hope to learn in 2021?
  • How will you work to improve?
  • What is one habit you would like to break in 2021?
  • At the end of next year, what would you like your life to resemble?
  • What word will be your theme for 2021?

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

Remember in December, Part 4 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2020 calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2020, I’m switching things up! I’ve come up with a list of 31 questions, and used them to reflect on this previous year. I hope they enrich your reflections as well.

 

  • This past year, what have you learned about yourself?
  • What hobbies have you tried or resurrected?
  • What did you accomplish that makes you happy?
  • What new habits did you form to enhance your life?
  • Where did you see the most growth personally?
  • What is one action you plan to take in 2021 to keep growing as a person?
  • What is something you planned to do throughout 2020 that you are going to recommit to or continue with in 2021?

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

 

 

Remember in December, Part 3 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2020 calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2020, I’m switching things up! I’ve come up with a list of 31 questions, and used them to reflect on this previous year. I hope they enrich your reflections as well.

 

  • Which of your relationships saw the most growth this year?
  • What did you learn about yourself as a result of your relationships?
  • What is one thing you learned about someone else?
  • What new relationships did you form over this year?
  • What new habits have you formed in order to deepen your relationships this year?
  • Who is one person you would like to get to know better next year?
  • What is one thing you plan to do in the next year to meet others?

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers: