You Know You’re Awesome, So Give Yourself a Pep Talk!

Katie Corbett holds "The Magic of Thinking Big" book

By Katie Corbett

 

Do you work in sales? Do you wish you made more money or had more responsibility at work? Are you job hunting? No one will know what you’re up to if you don’t tell them about it and ask them if they will help accomplish your goals. Striking up conversations with strangers, picking up the phone and making cold calls and putting yourself out there in general can be really scary. Instead of dwelling on the possibility of rejection or the thought that something might go wrong, why not give yourself a pep talk to pump you up?

 

I read about this strategy in “The Magic of Thinking Big,” by David J. Schwartz. It made difficult conversations much more bearable. Here’s one example.

 

While I was job hunting, I realized I wanted to learn more about what it was like to work as a recruiter in a staffing agency. I didn’t personally know any recruiters, so the best way would be to call staffing agencies and talk to complete strangers. Scary, right? Of course! I kept the pep talk strategy in mind, though, and was able to make those cold calls.

 

Before each phone call, I told myself things like, “I’m just calling to get information. I just need to focus on the script I wrote. I’m prepared. I’ve got the list of questions already. I can do this!”

 

I would consider all the cold calls I made to be a success. No one yelled at me; no one slammed down the phone or spoke to me rudely. Did I get an appointment with everyone I called? No. Did some phone calls result in job interviews? Yes! Did I realize that a staffing agency wasn’t the right fit for me? I did. It was great knowing that without having to actually work the long, competitive hours required. I learned everything I needed to know in order to make my decision just by talking to people in the field. I never would have gotten this knowledge without making the cold calls, and I never would have had the courage to make those calls without first giving myself a pep talk.

 

So no matter if you’re goal is to tell a potential customer about a product you sell, to ask your boss for a raise or to follow up with a lead for a potential new job, list all the reasons you’re awesome and give yourself that pep talk beforehand. You’ll get a lot more done and you’ll overcome your fears. Even if that customer doesn’t buy, your boss says “no,” or you don’t land the job, you’ll have put yourself out there and asked. And there’s no better way to stand out from the crowd and find opportunities for the future!

 

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How to Accomplish The Seemingly Impossible

Katie Corbett holds "The Magic of Thinking Big" book

By Katie Corbett

 

If you’re interested in making a change in your life, such as going back to school, getting a new job or buying a house, moving from dream to reality might seem impossible. In the book, “The Magic of Thinking Big,” by David J. Schwartz, I learned a cool trick to combat self-doubt and potential excuses. It’s simpler than you might think. All you have to do is decide you are going to make that change and you will start seeing ways for the change to become possible. Yes, it’s that easy!

 

Here’s an example of how this worked in my life. I knew I wanted to go back to school. I was unemployed at the time, was still paying off student loans from my bachelor’s degree and knew I wanted to study human resources, but should I go back for an HR degree or get an MBA? I didn’t let these reasons and the fear of the unknown hold me back. I first got a firm grip on my resolve to further my education. That helped me to evaluate the options.

 

I considered getting another bachelor’s degree, quickly ruling that out as expensive and too time-consuming. Then, I figured an MBA might be a good next step—until I thought about taking the GMAT, spending two years in a program and not being sure if a business degree was something I really wanted. Would that be too broad?

 

While talking this over with my mom, we stumbled across a Certificate in Human Resources program at a local technical school. It would only take me a year to complete the certificate. When I thought about it, I realized I already knew of a funding source that would cover tuition and I was already enrolled in that school, since I had taken a grant writing class through them a few years earlier. I called the school to get more information, talked with my funding source and found reliable transportation.

 

Just five months later, I walked into my first HR class. Nine months after that, I graduated debt-free with a new credential. I had faced a few challenges along the way, such as needing to find reliable transportation when my driver cancelled last-minute, dealing with a PDF file that could not be read by my screen-reading software and, of course, trying to stay motivated and get homework done. Because I had already made my decision to go back to school, I was committed to doing what I could to be successful in class and graduate.

 

Whatever your dream is, just make the decision that you’re going to do it. Let the rest fall into place around you. Decide to achieve, and you will achieve the impossible!

 

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Fun Product Friday: DoTerra Peppermint Beadlets (Review)

Katie Corbett holds an example of doTerra Peppermint Beadlets

By Katie Corbett

 

Today is Fun Product Friday! On the last Friday of each month, I review a product that has changed my life!

 

When you’re about to attend a meeting, give a presentation, or interview for a job, having fresh breath is super important. Here’s an all-natural product I’ve found that is fun, portable and freshens breath instantly. Watch this video to find my review of DoTerra’s Peppermint Beadlets!

 

 

Want to pick up a bottle for yourself? Click this link! It’s not affiliated or anything. It will take you to my friend, Lark, who is a DoTerra Wellness Advocate. She’ll be able to answer any questions and help you place your order.

 

https://www.doterra.com/US/en/site/larkgibson

 

Enjoy!

Think it and You Will Become It

Katie Corbett holds the book "Presence" by Amy Cuddy

By Katie Corbett

 

Often times when entering a new situation that seems daunting, it’s easy to think, “I’m not [smart, good, equipped] enough to do this.” In her book, “Presence,” Amy Cuddy describes this as “imposter syndrome.” She says to think, instead, that you are smart enough, good enough, equipped enough to be wherever you are or do whatever it is that you are doing. After enough time thinking this way, Amy writes, your thought patterns will start to change and you will believe you are capable.

 

“Really?” I thought. “I can just think this and then it will happen?” The time soon came for me to try it.

 

In June 2017, I woke up and decided I wanted to start career coaching. Okay, I’m sure there was more of a process in the making of this decision, but that’s how it felt to me. I’d discovered this burning desire I needed to fulfill as soon as possible. One problem: I didn’t know any career coaches and I certainly didn’t have any coaching certifications. I did have a lot of experience job hunting in unique ways and I had just received a Certificate in Human Resources and I had a lot of journalistic interviewing experience, so there was that. Also, a friend said she was interested in getting career advice from me. I found a guide to determining a new career path and read enough of it to know that I agreed with its philosophy. I texted my friend and set up our first session. I have been coaching successfully ever since.

 

It would have been so easy to say “I’m not certified enough,” or “I’m not equipped to coach—I don’t have a website or business cards or anything!” I’m glad I didn’t let those doubts stop me. I’m glad I read Amy’s book and knew that if I thought of myself as a career coach, I would become a career coach.

 

Now you’re here reading this, so you’ve found my website. I’m also researching coaching certification programs, because it’s important to pick the right one for me before investing thousands of dollars in something that will determine how I run my business. I’m networking with other coaches to get ideas for improving at doing what I do. Underneath it all, I’m helping people find fulfilling careers. I am a career coach. Think it, my friends, and you will become it.

 

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How to Mentally Put More Confidence in Your Life

Katie Corbett holds the book "Presence" by Amy Cuddy

By Katie Corbett

 

Want to boost your confidence, even if you don’t have a private place to do a power pose? It’s definitely possible! In her book, “Presence,” Amy Cuddy divulges yet another secret of science! It turns out you can hold your power pose mentally and get the same calming result as if your body was in the position physically.

 

I used this technique right before I gave a talk in my Introduction to Human Resources class. My small group and I needed to present our final project. We weren’t the first group to present and it would have been rude to duck out on another project presentation to go to the bathroom to hold my power pose. I wasn’t feeling entirely calm, though, so I sat quietly in my seat and pictured myself standing with my feet shoulder-width apart with hands on hips and counted for two minutes, or 120 seconds, in my head. When it was time to stand up and present, I wasn’t nervous anymore.

 

Does it seem too easy? Try it for yourself right now. I guarantee you’ll feel more assured just to have this knowledge in your back pocket. You never know when you’ll be in a nerve-racking situation without a space in which to physically do a power pose, so why not try it mentally. It could make all the difference!

 

I also think it’s cool to note that this idea was discovered because someone who uses a wheelchair wrote to Dr. Cuddy and asked if they could benefit from imagining themselves doing poses they could not physically do. So if you, too, are unable to move your arms and/or legs, remember this mental trick and power posing can work for you!

 

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How to Use Body Language to Decrease Stress

Katie Corbett holds the book "Presence" by Amy Cuddy

By Katie Corbett

 

It’s ten minutes before a job interview. This is your first time meeting anyone from the company and you want to make a good first impression. You’ve done your research. You know some ideal answers to interview questions you might be asked and you’ve come up with thoughtful, intelligent questions of your own about the company and position.

 

But you’re still nervous. Your heart is pounding and your palms are slick with sweat. In spite of all your careful planning, your stomach is in knots. Is there anything you can do? Can you decrease your stress levels in time to ace the interview? Yes. Yes, you can. It only takes two minutes.

 

In her book, “Presence,” Amy Cuddy elaborates on a method of stress reduction called “Power Posing.” This entails holding your body in a certain position for two minutes, which will lower your cortisol and raise your testosterone. The change in chemicals decreases sensations of anxiety and stress and increases feelings of confidence and empowerment.

 

My favorite power pose involves standing with my feet shoulder-width apart and placing my hands on my hips. I stand tall like that for two minutes and let the body chemistry take over.

 

I have used this poise producing life-hack in many situations, one of which was my annual review with my boss and the CEO of the nonprofit for which I work. Even though I had a feeling everything would go well, I was still nervous. My breaths were shallow, my heart was pounding and I was afraid if I opened my mouth to speak, my voice would be shaky.

 

Shortly before it was time for my review, I stood in my office and held my power pose for two minutes. When my power pose time was over, I was breathing more deeply, my head felt clearer and my heart was no longer going a mile a minute. I was able to walk into my review with self-assurance and present my ideas, feedback and opinions with a strong voice and clear communication.

 

Anyone can do this. All it takes is finding a private, quiet place to go for two minutes before an important event. Amy suggests many other power poses in her book and explains the science behind the technique, so pick up “Presence” to learn more.

 

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Perfecting Poise with Presence

Katie Corbett holds the book "Presence" by Amy Cuddy

By Katie Corbett

 

It was 2 in the morning and I’d just gotten done hanging out with my friend Ashley. (Early bedtimes are not a necessity of the unemployed job seeker.) Ashley was driving me home and I was telling her about a job interview I had later in the week.

 

“I just don’t know what to do,” I said. “I’ve been interviewing for so many jobs and I’m just not feeling confident anymore.”

 

“Have you heard of doing ‘power poses’?” she asked.

 

“No. What’s that?”

 

“You can hold your body in positions that alter your chemistry and give you a confidence boost,” Ashley explained as we rounded the last corner before parking in front of my apartment building. “It’s really awesome!”

 

“That does sound cool. Where can I learn more?”

 

“There’s a TED Talk about it, by a woman named, Amy Cuddy, I think. I’ll send you the link on your Facebook.”

 

Later that week, Ashley posted on my Facebook Wall the link to the TED Talk, with the text “This is seriously a game-changer.”

 

I watched the talk and I was floored. It was just as Ashley had described. One thing, however, was that the presenter hadn’t verbally described any of the poses, so I didn’t know what to do. (I’m blind and so I couldn’t watch what she was doing to hold the positions.) I thought, “There’s gotta be a book about this!” And there was.

 

The book is called, “Presence” by Amy Cuddy. I read the book and the ideas I found in it changed the way I approach nerve-racking situations. Over the next few weeks, I’m going to illustrate some of what I learned and how it could make a difference for you, too.

 

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