How Improving Social Awareness and Relationship Management has Helped Me in Tough Times

Katie Corbett holds the book "Emotional Intelligence 2.0"

By Katie Corbett

 

I was working at a summer camp and was tutoring math to a student who needed to pass a state exam. Math was not his strongest subject. I was really glad I had social awareness and relationship management as tools in my toolbox throughout that summer.

 

The book, “Emotional Intelligence 2.0,” by Travis Bradberry, helped me grow in and improve at these skills. I could tell how my student was feeling using social awareness, and used relationship management when giving feedback.

 

I could tell when this student was ready to buckle down and get some work done, and when it was better for me to make a game up for him to play and learn skills through fun. I could tell when he was ready for tough feedback and when Praise and encouragement were needed. This may seem trivial, but I think it made the difference between his leaving early, as he had wanted to do, and his completing the program, as he ended up doing. It also made for a less stressful summer camp counselor experience for me, too.

 

Improving these skills has helped me far beyond that summer experience. I use these skills every day when I’m asking my husband what he wants for dinner, telling a friend about a tough day I had (and knowing when and how to ask about them), and listening to a family member share tough news. It is my hope that you’ll learn more about EQ, and that it can help you in your life, too.

 

Are you working to improve in the areas of social awareness and relationship management? If so, leave me a comment and let me know how growth in these skills has helped you.

 

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What I Learned by Improving My Self-Awareness and Self-Management Skills

Katie Corbett holds the book "Emotional Intelligence 2.0"

By Katie Corbett

 

Self-awareness and self-management are both aspects of emotional intelligence, also known as EQ. They entail recognizing and appropriately responding to your emotions. This is an important skill to have, especially in professional settings.

 

I first became aware of these aspects of EQ when I read “Emotional Intelligence 2.0,” by Travis Bradberry. As I went through the book, I put an action plan into place to grow and improve in these skills.

 

I grew up in a family where all of us wore emotions on our sleeves. While that resulted in love, affection, and encouragement being expressed, it was also regular for people to fly off the handle when they became upset or life got stressful. As an adult, I noticed these behaviors in myself and wanted to make a change. I decided that improving my EQ would be a great place to start.

 

While I was working at a nonprofit as a writer, my boss told me I needed to rewrite a piece of content. My stomach clenched and I could feel my body getting warm. I was frustrated. By paying attention to the signals my body was sending me, I was able to realize that I was experiencing negative emotions.

 

We were heading to an event in a few minutes, so I couldn’t do anything right then to resolve the situation. I took time in my office to cool down. Unfortunately, I did express some frustration to my boss before that cool-down period, but once I realized what I was doing, I put a lid on it for the event and apologized to her afterward.

 

My emotions still blind-side me at times. Knowing the signals my body is sending me has helped me get control of myself before I show my frustration to the world.

 

Have self-awareness and self-management kept you from saying or doing something you’d have regretted later? Feel free to leave a comment and share your story.

 

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What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Katie Corbett holds the book "Emotional Intelligence 2.0"

By Katie Corbett

 

Intellectual intelligence is fixed. You can’t get any smarter than you already are. But did you know about emotional intelligence?

 

I first learned about it when I read the book, “Emotional Intelligence 2.0,” by Travis Bradberry. Emotional intelligence, or EQ for short, is the ability to recognize and respond to your emotions in healthy, situationally appropriate ways. It also entails recognizing and responding to the emotions of others. The great news is that you can always get better at these skills. Here are some reasons to keep improving:

 

  • People with high EQ’s do better in their careers.
  • EQ will make you a more empathetic, likeable person.
  • EQ will help you recognize the signs of stress in your life so you can reduce times of frustration.
  • EQ will help you communicate with others more effectively.
  • EQ will help you handle otherwise difficult conversations.
  • Working on your EQ will help you set benchmarks for soft skills (communication, emotional management) that can be otherwise tough to assess.
  • A higher EQ can help you more effectively manage conflict.
  • EQ can help you leave or defuse situations before they get out-of-hand.
  • Increasing your EQ can give you new behaviors to learn and new goals to set.
  • Improving your EQ will help you ask for and receive feedback from others, so you’ll be able to stop negative or annoying behaviors before they become a problem.

 

If you want to learn more about what EQ is, I strongly encourage you to check out Emotional Intelligence 2.0. You can find out where you stand in the four areas of EQ: Self-awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness, and relationship Management. The book also provides concrete action steps to help you track your progress and improve.

 

Do you have questions about or experience with EQ? Drop me a comment; I’d love to hear more.

 

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Reflections on The 4-Hour Workweek: Planning Your Mini-Retirement

Katie Corbett holds the book, "The 4-Hour Workweek"

By Katie Corbett

 

Since I owe a lot of my success—and future planning—to the book, “The 4-Hour Workweek,” by Tim Ferriss, I have decided to revisit the book each quarter in 2021. Here are my thoughts as we end quarter four. I hope this inspires you to pick up a book that helps you live your dreams. Enjoy!

 

Remember in December, Part 5 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Travel
  • My differences
  • Food
  • Writing
  • Hobbies
  • Fun
  • Myself

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 4 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Work
  • Vacation
  • Goals
  • Exercise and fitness
  • Dieting and nutrition
  • Teamwork
  • Planning

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 3 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Learning
  • Habits
  • Dreams
  • Success
  • Marriage and romance
  • Networking
  • Time

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 2 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • Family
  • Faith
  • Career
  • Business
  • Pets
  • Cooking
  • Creativity

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers:

 

Remember in December, Part 1 of 5

Katie Corbett holds a 2021 Calendar

By Katie Corbett

 

For these last weeks of 2021, I’m switching things up! I love to learn. I’ve come up with a list of 31 categories and reflected on what I’ve learned about this year in each one. If you decide to do the same, I hope this category list enriches your reflections and helps you learn more about yourself and your experiences.

 

  • House and home
  • Money and finances
  • Friends

 

Do you have a favorite year-end reflection question? Leave it in the comments. Listen to the audio for my answers: