Forgetting the Joneses

By Katie Corbett


It can be easy to compare your life to that of others. You might buy things you don’t need and do things you don’t want to do simply to keep up and try to make yourself “look” happy.


In “52 Small Changes for the Mind,” Brett Blumenthal encourages us to forget about what others have and focus on what we truly want. Here are some benefits I have noticed in my own life of living for myself and not worrying about what others have:


  • I am more satisfied with my own accomplishments, because I’m doing things I truly want to do.
  • I save money, since I’m not buying things to keep up with everyone else.
  • I have more to give to others because I’m not using resources to keep up with others.
  • I’m not stressed about what others think of me.
  • I have more time because I’m not wasting it looking at the lives of others and wallowing in jealousy or sadness that I don’t measure up.
  • I’m happier because I’m truly able to enjoy the present.
  • I have time, money, and energy to plan for my own hopes and dreams.
  • I’m more grateful for what I have.
  • I’m not nosey when it comes to the doings of other people.
  • I’m happy with who I am because I’m not comparing myself to others.


Are you finding yourself spending money, time, and energy you don’t have because you’re trying to keep up with others? Are you neglecting your own goals because you’re trying to do what you think others want you to do. If so, I encourage you to take some time for yourself and reflect on what you’d like to change. Do you need to stop looking at social media? Avoid long conversations with certain people? Start a gratitude journal?


Let me know what you decide to do. I’d love to hear more about it.


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