By Katie Corbett
The area of emotional intelligence, or EQ, that I have concentrated on recently is self-management. That means working to use my awareness of my emotions to actively control what I say and do. I have noticed that I have become more positive, had more positive interactions with others and found greater satisfaction in life overall.
The book, “Emotional Intelligence 2.0”, by Travis Bradberry, gave me several strategies that I have found helpful. One was controlling, and in most cases stopping, the negative self-talk that was happening inside my head. I have discovered that thinking the word “STOP” when I discover I’m headed down a self-deprecating rabbit-hole of thought very helpful. Since doing this:
- I can think more clearly without all the negative noise taking up brain space.
- I am less anxious.
- I can problem-solve faster and arrive more quickly at solutions.
- I am less worried of what I suspect others think of me.
- I am more confident.
- I have silenced my inner critic.
- I have realized that many of my worries never come to pass.
- When problems come up or bad things happen, I am less likely to dwell on those things.
- Instead of dwelling on the past or beating myself up for what I “should have done differently”, I am looking toward the future.
- Overall, I am happier, less stressed and more free to be myself.
I’m still working on fully employing this strategy. I’ll be the first to admit that I have a long way to go to catch myself every time. The more times I do silence my inner negative thoughts, the better life is for me and for those around me.
The next time your inner voice tells you something negative, I encourage you to think the word “STOP” and see if that brings silence to your thoughts and peace to your inner world. Maybe thinking “STOP” isn’t the right method for you. To find many other ideas, pick up “Emotional Intelligence 2.0” and find a better solution. I hope you experience some of the changes I have seen in myself in these past few months.
If you find a strategy that works better for you, let me know in the comments. I’d love to hear all about it.
Want to get this info sent right to your in-box? Subscribe to my blog, so you’ll never miss a post.